Wednesday, July 14, 2010

The Grand Bond

In our apartment complex apart from moms and maids taking out their children / wards in the evenings I find a lot of grandparents taking their grandchildren out to play in the park downstairs. It is a very touching sight to see the older and the younger generation sharing good times with each other.

I see grandparents walking their grandchild in the stroller. Another grandfather pushing a tricycle or another trying to teach his grandchild to learn to cycle. Many a time, I see grandparents taking their grandchildren to the shop down the road to get that packet of chips or chocolates which the child must have insisted on getting. You all know that with grandparents around children know how to get things which they want.

Both grandparents and grandchildren share a special bond between them.If the grandparents are living in the same house then there is nothing like it. Who better to make their favourite dish at all odd times when mom says she can't. The grandmother. When they get hurt and need that sympathy factor who better than grandparents to fuss around. The little brats know where to hide when parents get angry. You guessed it - the grandparents are their shields. They know their genie is none other than the grandparents who will make every one of their wish come true. At night, many of the epics come alive with the soothing voice of the grandmother narrating the story of Ramayana or Mahabharatha or Panchatantra.

The unconditional love that grandparents have for their grandchildren makes this relationship an unbreakable bond. It was a pleasure to watch this evening a little child of two years walking hand in hand with her grandfather, both deep in conversation oblivious of the world around them.These special moments show that children need their grandparents as much as the latter need the former for company. While the grandchildren are in their childhood stage the grandparents are reliving their childhood through their grandchildren. And as one watches this relationship, one realises that both of them are actually acting as anchors to each other.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

So GRANDLY said.. it is a lovely bond and something kids living overseas away from the grandparents miss so very much.

Shobhana Shenoy said...

Thanks for the comment. Yes Indians staying abroad would definitely miss this special bond that the grandparents would have shared with their grandchildren. They will only be visitors coming home once in two to three years. Grandchildren therefore will not be able to forge that bond within a short span of a month.

Paramjit said...

...so very true, unfortunately I've also seen some 'highly educated', very successful parents calculating the "worth" of staying with parents. Wish they read this and get the answers

Ravishankar said...

It just reminds me of one particular incident which occured everyday whenever i used to visit my grandparents.I used to love chocolates and i used to ask my granddad to buy me one. He used to buy me Gems everyday inspite of my mom scolding him. I used to eat the chocolate from the shop till the moment i reach the door of my home. As soon as i reach the entrance of our home, i used to throw the chocolate in the gutter nearby. My mom used to scold me and my granddad used to protect me. I really miss my granddad who must be having a nice time in heaven watching me grow.:(:(:(

Ravishankar said...

Good post... Nostalgia!!

Shobhana Shenoy said...

Thanks Paramjit,
Yes human nature sometimes is such that it tends to be very calculative. Relationships and its value gets totally undermined.But I feel true happiness and peace eludes people when one thinks of gaining something materialistic out of a relationship.

Shobhana Shenoy said...

Thanks Ravishankar,
Well that is what grandparents are there for aren't they - to pamper and giving into their grandchildren's wish every time much to the dismay of the mother who thinks too much pampering makes the child a spoilt brat :)

Anonymous said...

One of the reasons for us to move back to India. We didnt want kids or grandparents to miss out on the special bond with eachother.
Its fun site to see my most favorite persons bonding with eachother. :)

Shobhana Shenoy said...

Hey that was a very big decision that you guys made. This will be cherished however by all three generations. Great.